Episode 16: Managing Feedback with Grace
Peter and Robyne discuss “the power of coping ahead” of receiving criticism and how to set ourselves up for success to avoid managing it in a reactive way. They also highlight how it better serves us to focus on the lesson within feedback rather than the offense (even though it’s much easier to pick up on the latter), and to ask ourselves, “who am I getting this from?” before wholly accepting criticism. Finally, when on the giving end, they propose checking in with the person before giving feedback to establish whether they are in the right mindframe to accept it.
Today’s surprise questions:
Picture yourself in a beautiful location and, through magic, you have anything you desire at your disposal - what would you do with 15 mins there?
What piece of feedback do you need to hear right now?
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Show Notes
We cover many topics in this episode, including:
- Sometimes it’s better to jump in and do something you’re passionate about while you are in the process of actualizing it, rather than being overcautious and preparing the spontaneity out of it
- ’The Power of Coping Ahead of Time' - often we manage things like criticism afterwards in a reactive way, but think about setting yourself up for success by preparing how you will cope ahead of time
- It’s easier to pick up the offense in feedback than it is to pick up the lesson - aim for the latter
- ‘Connect before you correct’ - check in with the person before giving feedback to establish whether they are in the right mindframe to accept it
- Before accepting criticism, ask “Who am I getting this from?” - anyone can have an opinion - what you want is counsel and mentorship
- When dealing with a daunting project, don’t be afraid to find people who are better at specific tasks and delegate some of the work to them to get the project off its feet
We deny others the ability to contribute and to be part of something by trying to do it all ourselves. – Peter
Additional Resources:
- Previous episode mentioned by Peter: Episode 1: Is This “The Perfect Time?”
- Previous episode mentioned by Peter: Episode 14: Shifting Gears Into Self-Compassion
- Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy
- Quote Robyne referred to: “None of us is as smart as all of us.” – Ken Blanchard
Credits:
Hosted by Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe and Peter Katz
Produced by Trevor Campbell
Edited by Sean Ban Beaton
Theme song by Peter Katz
Podcast cover art by Trevor Campbell
Show logistics by Erin Marshall and Jenna Green
Connect:
Connect with Peter Peterkatz.com | Peterkatzspeaks.com
Connect with Robyne Drrobyne.ca
Follow Peter and Robyne on social media:
Peter Katz: Facebook: @peterkatzmusic | Instagram: @peterkatzmusic
Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe: Instagram: @dr_robynehd | Twitter: @dr_robynehd
*The information presented in this podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Please consult a qualified healthcare professional if you require assistance.
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