Episode 83: (Un)Making a Mess
Peter and Robyne discuss how “mess” and abstraction can allow for development, exploration, and discovery. But if this mess leaves you overwhelmed, what can you (or your loved ones) do? Plus, the ethics of “upgrading” to a new hairdresser.
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Show Notes
We cover many topics in this episode, including:
- They discuss the ethics of upgrading to a different hairdresser and sparing the original hairdresser the feeling of rejection - a more transparent approach could be a lesson in integrity and courage by instead asking for what you need
- Sometimes asking for what you want is the best way to get it
- As we grow older we tend to care less about what others think of us
- Music in adolescence is important for identity formation - our minds go from concrete thinking to more abstract thinking
- It’s worrisome when young people have a concrete idea of what their future career will be before they’ve had a chance to truly get to know who they are and what their interests are
- A teenager’s need to feel accepted is a primitive survival mechanism, and acceptance is a key part of their evolution as they learn to network and be social
- Adolescents distance themselves from their familial ties in order to gain independence and see if they can make it on their own
- Instill in your kids that when all their friends don’t know what to do and are afraid to ask their parents for help, that’s when they should contact you, knowing you will help them through this mess
- In songwriting as in life, you can always rearrange what you have to find a new perspective, and if it’s not what you were hoping it would be, you can always go back to what you originally had
- When creating something in writing, don’t delete old ideas - move them to the bottom of the page to come back to if you need to
- Give yourself permission to be messy when you’re brainstorming ideas
What might be possible if I allowed myself to just not know—to let things be unknown and see what gets discovered on the other side of that? – Peter
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Credits:
Hosted by Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe and Peter Katz
Produced by Trevor Campbell
Edited by Sean Ban Beaton
Theme song by Peter Katz
Podcast cover art by Trevor Campbell
Show logistics by Erin Marshall and Jenna Green
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